Hello my busy, “doing”, productive, fast-paced, hustling friends:
I wanted to share with you my new favorite emoji to use. It’s the Cartwheel emoji 🤸♀️. It fits perfectly with my new way of being that I am focused on creating for myself. If you’ve received a text from me in the past few weeks, go check it out! I’m overboard with 🤸♀️ ❤️️ 🤸♀️ emojis!
Do you know why I am so fascinated with this emoji? Because I’ve been taking life a little too serious lately. And my coach told me to “Lighten the F*** Up!” were her EXACT words! When was the last time you truly laughed?
Here’s the problem with life sometimes. We push. We do more. We stay up late. We work another hour. We try to get ahead. The list never gets done. Can you relate? I don’t know about you, but I was starting to feel hopeless of ever getting “it” together! That’s when I realized that I was pushing too hard. I was trying to live with my email Inbox empty!! And it’s exhausting to live like that.
It became really obvious to me when our son got in trouble at school (not the first time…) that I was forced to look at how I was running my own life, so that I could reinvent a new way of being around HIM. Here’s what I realized… (And this is no fun to admit.) I was loving him with conditions. If he got a job. If he cleaned up his room. If he hustled. If he went about projects the way I go about projects. Then I was happy. When he did it “his way” I was not very easy to live with.
OUR KIDS ARE OUR BEST TEACHERS!!!! The world was laughing at me for that way of parenting. I realized that it was time to love him unconditionally.
Meaning to love him with or without a clean room, with or without his ability to make money (for crying out loud he’s only 16!) and to see the uniqueness about him. You know what I realized…that I had a lot to learn. From him. He is really about smelling the roses and I was ab
out hammering results! Once I LET GO and LIGHTENED UP, is when our lives felt flowy and loving and kind. It was accepting and forgiving. Our family is in a much better place now with my shift.
I’ve decided to learn from this kid. And slow down, get more playful and stop crushing my to-do list at the cost of relationships in my life! I love what one of my clients shared as her new motto: “ditch the GRIND for the UNWIND!” So good.
So, my friends—are your kids teaching you any lessons? Please tell me some of you are “different” than your kids, too?
Do you need to lighten up? Could you be more playful? 🤸♀️ Let’s be honest–Do you need to start using the cartwheel emoji a little more?????
P.S. Do you want a chance to lighten up? Join me and some other rock star women at my next retreat October 17th-18th near Panora, Iowa. Promises to be full of fun + empowerment! 🤸♀️ 💪