I’m going to just cut right to it. If you’re a mama of an emerging adult, this one’s for you.
Two of my kids just dropped out of college. Boom. 🤯
I went from crying to content within a day and here’s how:
They were miserable, not learning, going through the motions, feeling like frauds and failures. Hands-on guys, dealing with worksheets, and video conferencing. And they decided to powerfully step out of their college experience. They knew what was working and what wasn’t working. After shedding initial tears, I’m really proud of them. Because the reality is….I probably wouldn’t have had the guts to do it!!!
At their age, I’m not sure I would’ve gone against cultural norms. Against what my parents wanted me to do. Go against what is EXPECTED of them. When I was their age, I would have trudged along and people pleased at my own expense.
Do we all know someone who completed all those years of law school only to realize they don’t want to be a lawyer? I am pretty sure that I would’ve just kept going through the motions because “it was expected of me” instead of really listening to myself. And then taking action.
Side note before you think I’ve lost my mind: This may not be the best decision for them, that’s not what I’m saying. TIME WILL TELL! What I’m saying is that after I cried for a few hours, I spent the better part of one whole day getting coaching from my mentors, this is where I’ve shifted to:
I acknowledge them for being willing to say it out loud to me that this is what they wanted. It’s their life. I had to get over my own definition that quitting was bad! Maybe powerfully stepping out of college is the best decision they’ve ever made. Stopping college doesn’t make them wrong or bad.
And for the trillionth time: this is their journey. Not mine.
I’m letting go, letting God. And my word of the year has become SURRENDER!
Stay tuned. This story isn’t over yet!
Breathe mommas, we get to BREATHE.
P.S. I used to think that I couldn’t be a good Life Coach if my life was falling apart. I realize now that it’s PERFECT that at times my life is falling apart. Gives me grit. I’m hosting a FREE WORKSHOP, “Let’s GO…Let’s GROW!” on Friday morning, December 4th–who will join me for this powerful, interactive, FREE workshop? We can’t waste all this grit, let’s be in community during these nutty times. Join here.